Learn about why you should lose the frumpy look, even when you’re home alone. Dressing in old, torn clothes can affect your confidence, your joy, and even your productivity.
Life’s a party. Dress Like it. – Audrey Hepburn
Listen to the full podcast version (with lots more insight and fun laughs!) below.
The Three Looks of Motherhood
As a Mom, we typically have three looks.
PolishedLook: This is one of our best looks. Our make-up is in place, our outfit may even be clean and if we’re having a great day, perhaps our shoes will even match our clothing. This look takes effort and money. As busy women, we tend to avoid it whenever possible.
CoffeeLook: When we go out to meet a friend for coffee, we usually dress in something cute and we may even wear makeup. But we’re not perfect. Our clothes are probably outdated and worn looking and our shoes will be comfy sandals. This is a cute look. Although we don’t look as great as we do when polished, it’s not bad.
FrumpyLook: Ugh, as you already know, this one is the worst. It’s how we dress when we’re home alone or with the kids. Our clothes are probably stained and look like rags (and that’s assuming we even got out of our PJs!) Forget hair and makeup. Those are reserved for “special occasions.”
The Problem with Frumplook
Here’s the problem with Frumpylook: You feel bad about yourself.
When you’ve taken no care about your appearance, it impacts how you feel about yourself.
When I’ve got FrumpyLook going on, if I pass myself in a mirror, I cringe. You know that feeling. I don’t even need to describe it to you. UGH!!
There have been scientific experiments testing whether someone’s clothes can affect them. They found that clothes can indeed impact you and they even have a name for it. They call it Enclothed Cognition.
Cognitive psychologists Hajo Adam and Adam Galinksy came up with the term.
They did several studies and put different types of coats on people, such as lab coats, doctor coats, and painters coats. They found that what you wear does make a difference. For example, when people wore a lab coat versus regular street clothes, they could focus better.
What you wear affects you. It can make you feel amazing….or frumpy. Confident or insecure. The choice is yours.
I have a free printable to help you on your journey. The way you dress can be difficult to change. If you feel resistance to dressing nicely, please please please download this journaling exercise. It includes questions to help you explore your journey.
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How to Ease Away from the FrumpyLook
To ease away from FumpyLook, start to lean into CoffeeLook. I don’t want you to worry about doing PolishedLook on your day off or weekends, that’s too huge of a stretch. But do you think you could ease into wearing comfortable clothes that you’d be happy for a friend to see you in?
If you can stretch to this, you’ll get there. You’ll increase your self-confidence so much.
In life, it’s not about making huge changes. In my experience, the most lasting and effective changes happen when we just ease into something new. Instead of dressing in stained clothes, just wear something a little nicer. It can still be comfortable and make you feel cozy. But the difference in your mood and attitude will be tremendous.
If you’d like to go a step farther, consider wearing a little make-up. Even on the weekend! You don’t have to do your whole face, but just a little make-up can make you feel like a million dollars.
Let me Know How it Goes
Give CoffeeLook a try and let me know what effect it has on you. Did you have a better day? Did you accomplish more? How did you feel about yourself?
Don’t forget to listen to the podcast! You’ll get so much out of it.