Oftentimes in life, we feel that we need to do things “correctly” or not do them at all. On the one hand, this is a beautiful trait. It shows that we are creative and imaginative and want to do things well. However, the downside of perfectionism is that it’s paralyzing. Very often we don’t know how to make our vision a reality, so we don’t do it at all.
Introducing the MiddlePath
Please allow me to introduce you to a new concept that doesn’t involve perfectionism, procrastination, or settling.
It’s called MiddlePath. The MiddlePath is stunning. It’s filled with sunshine, bright flowers, and joy. It’s easy to find and even easier to walk on. You never need to leave it for another path since everything you need is right on it. It has the convenience of a highway, but the feel of a lush, peaceful forest. It has mini-paths that lead to everything you need in life.
The MiddlePath is a place of beauty because it allows you to enjoy, perhaps even strive for, imperfection.
Avoiding Other Paths
There are other paths that are also available to you if you chose not to use the MiddlePath. Below are some of your options:
The Perfect Path (Perfectionism) is deceptive. It looks gorgeous and you think it’s the best path for you. It resembles a staged forest from a movie. From afar, the plants and trees look real, but when the camera pans in, you can see that the trees are actually made of plastic. Up close, the forest is ugly, doesn’t bring you a sense of peace, and is filled with people who make you uncomfortable and miserable. You are so uncomfortable that you often leave this path quickly and never return. Often, this path leads straight to the Off-Path.
The Off-Path (Procrastination) doesn’t get you there. Having no path, or completely avoiding the path, often seems like the easiest solution. You simply stay where you are and don’t even get on the road. You don’t see the different options (or other paths) because you never get started. The problem with this path is that you’re stuck and don’t get anywhere.
The Imperfect Path (Settling) doesn’t feel beautiful or peaceful, though it isn’t a bad path. It’s plain looking and although it’s easy to walk on, it doesn’t feel comfortable or satisfying. There are no flowers on this path. You’ll get to your final destination quickly and efficiently, but you may not enjoy where you end up. Sometimes you regret taking this path.
Why is the MiddlePath the Best Path?
The MiddlePath is the best path because it allows you to slowly ease into your goals. If you take any other path, you struggle. You either try to do things perfectly (which isn’t always possible), you procrastinate since it seems too hard, or you take the path of least resistance by settling on something you may not be happy with.
With MiddlePath, you can ease into difficult tasks or goals.
Let’s use an example. Let’s pretend that as a busy Mom, you’d like to get some help. Going the route of the Perfect Path (perfectionism), you decide that you need a housekeeper to come in once a week to help you clean your house and do the laundry.
However, the cost of a Housekeeper coming once a week is too much for your budget. Don’t give up! Instead, take the Middle Path. With the Middle Path, there are so many more possibilities. Get creative and have fun solving the problem!
Here are a few options.
- Hire a housekeeper every 2 weeks or even every 4 weeks
- Buy more prepared food so you have time to do the cleaning
- Pay your kids to do some tasks
- Buy a robot vacuum cleaner
Hire a mother’s helper to watch the kids for a few dollars while you clean
Once you start the ideas going, you see there are MANY possibilities — some which may be even better than your original idea of The Perfect Path. You realize that there isn’t “one” perfect solution to your problems.
The biggest advantage of taking the Middle Path is that it’s easy! It doesn’t scare you because you’re merely dipping your toes into the water and easing into your goals. You’re taking a creative path and learning as you go. You don’t need to be a perfectionist. You just need to ease in, slowly.
Before you know it, taking the Middle Path will help you ease into many of your goals, helping you accomplish things that you thought were impossible for you.
Next time you decide you need to change something in your life, as yourself this question, first: What is the Middle Path?
Let me know your thoughts on the Middle Path in the comments below!
Wishing you lots of success and love,